Building Resilience, Powering Performance

  • You know you should be working on something but putting it off again and again.
  • Do you stare at your unending to- do list?
  • Are you starting projects, but never quite finishing them?
  • Are you doubting yourself and your abilities even though you “know” you are very capable?
  • What goals have you had for yourself for a long time and never been able to accomplish?
  • Are there particular areas where you find yourself procrastinating or putting off deciding?
  • Do you find yourself unreasonably angry or frustrated, and is this affecting your relationships?
  • Is there something in your life that nags at you and causes you dissatisfaction because you know you could do it, or do it better?

Marianne Williamson said, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It’s our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves: who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Who are you not to be? You are a child of the universe. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking, so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory of the universe that is within us. It is not just in some of us: it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. And as we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”.

Steven Callahan is an American author, naval architect, inventor, and sailor most notable for having survived for 76 days adrift on the Atlantic Ocean in a life raft. 

Callahan, an experienced mariner, possessed seafaring skills that were undoubtedly critical to his survival, but were these alone enough to save him?

Callahan framed his situation, dire though it was, in terms of choice. A vast ocean stretched before him on all sides. He saw nothing but its endless blue surface, below which lurked many dangers. However, in the lapping of the waves and the whistle of the wind, he did not hear a verdict of death. Instead, he heard a question: “Do you want to live?” and his answer to himself was, “I now have a choice: to pilot myself to a new life or to give up and watch myself die. I choose to kick as long as I can”.

What’s holding you back?

What’s the payoff for having this belief?

What’s stopping you to shine?

What actions are you shying away from? What excuses are you making?

What’s paying off? What’s becoming dead weight?

Next time someone asks you, “What would you do?” you might take a page from Callahan’s book and reply, “I would choose”. I would choose to liberate myself from what’s holding me back.