Are you always in a state of frenzy, hurrying and cramming activities in your schedule from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed? You constantly look at the clock and feel the pressure of time. You find yourself –
– Dropping doctor’s appointments despite being unwell
– Missing momentous family events
– Consistently working more than 12 hours or even more everyday
If you see yourself in the above description, I invite you to reflect on whether you are moaning, bragging, or competing about how busy you are.
I am not saying that life is not busy, but sometimes we create stories in our minds and let them run our lives. Given below are a few common ones regarding busyness –
- Busy = Important
A packed schedule has become a barometer of success and, therefore, telling others that you are super busy is a brag. You are really telling people that you are important.
2. You cannot say ‘no’ to anyone
You believe that if you say ‘no’ to anyone, they will think less of you, you will not be seen as a team player. You probably tell yourself that eventually, you have to do it, why not stretch and do it now.
3. You think you do not have a choice
Many people think that they are busy because of their lopsided workload, boss, or organization. Even if they resent spending all hours at work, they genuinely believe that they do not have any other choice.
4. You feel guilty when you are not busy
Feeling guilty when taking a break is common, especially if you believe that only you have the power to prevent things from going wrong.
5. You are addicted to being busy
Technology has made it easier for us to be busy all the time. A study found that an average person touches their phone more than 2000 times a day. A lot of my clients tell me that they never log off the office communicator and feel compelled to respond to all messages.
6. You use busyness as an assurance
For some, being busy helps to avoid dealing with uncomfortable personal problems, escape reality, or acts as a shield against emptiness.
Do you resonate with any of the above? Do you want to step out of this trap of busyness and lead a more wholesome life? The first step in making any change is to acknowledge that the change is needed. Challenge the belief which is holding you hostage in the busy-land, and if you need help, feel free to book a call.
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